April 15, 2007
Stress And Anxiety: Motherhood
I am the mother of 6 children and the last "little chick" as I like to call them has now left home to make a nest for herself. I was basically a stay at home mom and I found that when I did things for myself and got out of the house for a few hours and just became Lorraine again instead of someone’s mom I could go back home and be energized for the next while.It made me a better listener and recharged my emotional batteries to spend a bit of time and a change of scenery away from the home. I was extremely busy with events, activities, daily living and parenting so I understand the words stress and anxiety when in relation to motherhood.
I always thought I should have a career like some of my friends. They always had money to do things and go on holidays as well as lots of new fashions and could pamper themselves with haircuts and pedicures etc.
There was some pressure from the outside world that staying home to look after children was not held in high regard. These things seemed important at times for me but I thought of ways to get creative and have some of these little personal luxuries too.
You have to think outside the box when you have 6 children and a husband. Stress and anxiety can go hand in hand with everyday life in a busy home.There is a lot going on in a house with that many personalities in it and it takes just as much thought and effort to keep everyone and everything running smoothly in the home as it does in the work place. We did certainly have our challenges but as in the career world you find ways to keep your "company" running successfully. I looked at my life when everyone left home and realized that I had been having a career all along. There was nothing I would have rather done. I see how wonderful, happy, intelligent and the nice people I helped to bring into society. The rest is now up to them, however I still am involved in their lives but now I have the freedom for myself too.
It is time for me to experience my own interests and now my children help and encourage me. The situation has turned around. They are my friends and when I think of all the stress and anxiety we went through I know it was worth it. Never give up on raising your children because it is a life long commitment in some form or another. If I had not worked at being a parent I do not think I would be looking at such a personal achievement.
Comments are welcome from mothers and any caregivers. Support is so very important when it comes to parenting. Someday we all will see our "chicks" leave the protection of the family nest and go out to build their own nests and pass on the knowledge and love we have given. Even when they leave us physically they never truely are gone. When the nest is finally empty, the stress and anxiety still go on because we are still involved in the lives of our children even when they leave the family unit. I am thankful for the fact that I will always have a part of them with me and I am sure you feel the same.
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