Change your Outlook

When you fall in a mud puddle wearing your new white dress, you have two options. "You can be angry and muddy or you can just be muddy. You choose". You can get tearful, or you can try to find the positive. It's okay to feel angry at times, but you need to let go of those feelings, look at them, and eventually change how you feel about them. "You can't control things that happen to you; all you can do is control how you react to them."

You can be angry and still think positively about things. Although most people tend to think the worst at first, you can train yourself to take the time to start dwelling on the positive. You can think of it as a checking account; the more positive thoughts you deposit, the more positive feeling you will get from it.

Keep a journal
I take a minute and write feelings down. Write down when and why you felt that way. Looking back at your experiences, you are able to explore what happened, how you were feeling, and why she felt that way. That insight can equip you to better deal with current, as well as future, situations. It might help you release the anger that until that time you could not explain or know where it came from.

Dwell Only on the Positive
Stop dwelling on things forever. If you understand how it happened then do not let it happen again. Release the anger at the past and look to the future. You can control a situation only if you have knowledge of how it affects you, fore warned is fore armed. When you're going through a difficult time, it's important to remember that you didn't ask for the situation to go badly, but you do have the power to change it and move on.

Finding your method
Learning to change the way you think about and react to stressful situations isn't easy. Once you have what is bothering you down in a journal you can then start to deal with how you will releases the pent up anger and hurt it caused. There are different methods and techniques to do this and with the knowledge of what is bothering you in hand you will be able to find one that is perfect for you

Commit to changing
Once you picked a method to help you deal with stress, like the release the need technique that uses affirmation to help relief and release tensions; stick with it. Change takes time. If you stick with it you will reap the benefits and like yourself better and so will the people around you.

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